Saturday, 10 March 2012

Men...menly men...their men in tights...



There isn't a day that goes by that my dad and I don’t manage to fit a ‘Robin Hood – Men in tights’ quote in to conversation, so am totally chuffed, that I have even managed to use it as a title. This post is nothing to do with Robin Hood, or men in tights, but I like the abstract idea to which you will understand by the end of this post...or maybe you won’t. Who knows?!

Ok, so I read an article in the paper yesterday, ah, ok not quite in the paper... I read it on the news app on my phone...yes, what a thoroughly modern millie I am. The article was about a study that revealed that women prefer this men clean shaven. We do? I may be alone in saying this, but I really really don’t like freshly shaven men. I love a bit of stubble. I love beards. I like men to look like men.

This got me thinking, you see, I like men to be men, but there is such a shortage of manly-men. You know the type, the type that drink beer, do DIY, ride motorbikes, have beards and have rough hands. Men today drink cocktails, get their eyebrows plucked, have smooth soft hands and hairless jaw lines. They sing to pop music, and have massages. Hims used to joke about the oestrogen in the water making men more effeminate, and do you know what, for whatever reason, he may be on to something.

I was in the office on Monday, and the radio was on. Whitney Houston’s ‘I wanna dance with somebody’ was playing, and people were singing along...when I say people, I don’t actually mean the women – the men were the ones singing along, and it was at that point in time, that I thought ‘yup, modern men are most certainly not manly’.

I’m not a Gurley-girl (despite not owning or ever wearing trousers), I spend most Saturdays with my dad doing up my house, wielding hammers, climbing up and down ladders and putting up shelves. Hims was never into DIY, so it was always me to do home improvements, and since hims’ exit last year, I have met a steady stream of men, all equally adverse to hammer wielding. I don’t understand when men stopped doing DIY. When you look at Fathers Day cards they are all related to hammers, nails and wood glue...so why do modern men have such a lack of home improvement skills?

I have a friend who is a plumber, he knows a builder, and the two of them are what I would call ‘menly-men’. They work hard all day with pipes and plaster and they don’t fuss about their nails breaking, they don’t have hand massages and when one of them recently fell off of a ladder and dislocated his shoulder...he carried on with plastering the ceiling. You could begin to argue – there you go, modern men who are manly...but these examples are Generation X not Y. Modern men yelp if they get a paper-cut!

So when I see articles stating that men should be clean shaven, is this not just another down grade of men and their manly-ness? Stubble and beards are an attribute to males, why are we turning our men into women?

I know that psychologists say that daddies-girls choose men like their dads, and I guess in this respect, it’s true. I want a man to be active, to do DIY and to not moan about it if I ask them to help me dig a hole (which, for all my feminist beliefs, I do concur that men are better at hole digging than women).

Oh and if you haven’t seen Mel Brooks’ Men in Tights, this is to what I was referring: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0lUjhEHlh7s

...and slightly less interesting, this was the article:


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